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1-1-1 : Special Issue✨
How to remember what you've read?, Mental Health, Metaverse and more...
Friends, I know it's been a long time since you've received a newsletter from me, but I'm back with a slew of special gifts, just as I promised.
Welcome to the 14 new members who have joined since the last issue, we’re now 265 members strong💪
Today at Glance:
📖Book: Maybe You Should Talk to Someone.🎙️Podcast: Mark Zuckerberg on Lex Fridman Podcast🧾Article: How to remember what you’ve read?🤩Surprise as promised at the end:)
“Maybe You Should Talk to Someone is revolutionary in its candor, offering a deeply personal yet universal tour of our hearts and minds and providing the rarest of gifts: a boldly revealing portrait of what it means to be human and a disarmingly funny and illuminating account of our own mysterious lives and our power to transform them.” -Audible
Here are some of the best nuggets from the book:
“There’s something likable in everyone,” and to my great surprise, I found that she was right. It’s impossible to get to know people deeply and not come to like them.”
We frequently find ourselves in situations from which we are unable to escape. However, the only way out is to pass through it.
“The only way out is through.”
Pain vs Suffering:
“There’s a difference between pain and suffering,” Wendell says. “You’re going to have to feel pain—everyone feels pain at times—but you don’t have to suffer so much. You’re not choosing the pain, but you’re choosing the suffering.”
“A lot of creative work happens when you don’t have much experience”
“There’s nothing like illness to take away a sense of control, even if we often have less of it than we imagine. What people don’t like to think about is that you can do everything right—in life or a treatment protocol—and still get the short end of the stick. And when that happens, the only control you have is how you deal with that stick—your way, not the way others say you should.”
And finally, one of the best quotes from the book.
“People often mistake numbness for nothingness, but numbness isn’t the absence of feelings; it’s a response to being overwhelmed by too many feelings.”
Mark Zuckerberg on Lex Fridman Podcast
Lex had one of the most interesting and informative conversations I'd ever heard. In this episode with Mark, they talk about what the metaverse is and what the future holds for it, the vast difference between what is real and what is depicted in the Netflix documentary The Social Dilemma, social media and its negative impact on mental health, and more.
Here are some of the great points from the episode:
The problem with free speech: The challenging thing with free speech is that there is a line, the thing that everyone disagrees on is the definition of real harm
“When there is an acute threat, it does make sense from a societal perspective to tolerate less speech” – Mark Zuckerberg
Goals of Metaverse: The major problem with current technology is that it fails to establish a presence, as we are only equipped with spatial audio & eye contact and at one point humans are not comfortable with that. That’s where metaverse comes.Mark shares his vision with metaverse ‘the goal of the metaverse is not to build technology for people to interact with; but rather, build technology for people to interact with each other’.
“All the work that I do is at the intersection of Psychology and Computer Science” – Mark Zuckerberg
The best part from the episode: Zuckerberg is no Robot!
How to Remember What You Read
You read an amazing book, one so packed with wisdom that you think it’s going to change your life forever. Then..... it doesn’t. Why?
Because when the situation arises, where you could that insights, but you’ve completely forgotten it.
Consuming information is not the same as acquiring knowledge.
If you are to remember something after reading this thread, then it should be these 6 truths about reading.
Quality matters more than quantity. Reading one book completely in-depth than skimming 5 different books
Speed-reading is bullshit. What matters is how much you understand. Get read of competing for reading books
Book summary services miss the point. Use them to get gist not take them as an alternative
Fancy apps and tools are not needed. Just use a pen and notebook or index card or sticky notes.
We shouldn’t read stuff we find boring. Life is too short to waste time on the ridiculous thing.
Finishing the book is optional. You should start a lot of books but finish only a few of them.
Note: The below section is only if you are reading Non-Fiction, it may not be applicable in the case of Fiction.
What you read can give you access to untold knowledge. But how you read changes the trajectory of your life.
1). Active Reading:
“Every time I read a great book I felt I was reading a kind of map, a treasure map, and the treasure I was being directed to was in actual fact myself. But each map was incomplete, and I would only locate the treasure if I read all the books, and so the process of finding my best self was an endless quest. And books themselves seemed to reflect this idea. Which is why the plot of every book ever can be boiled down to ‘someone is looking for something.’” —Matt Haig, Reasons to Stay Alive
Your first goal with reading is not to be a passive consumer of information.
To get the most out of each book you read, it is vital you know how to record, reflect on, and put into action your conclusions. And a lot of success in reading boils down to preparation. What you do before you read matters more than you think.
Choose Great Books
Focus on some combination of books that:
stand the test of time;
pique your interest; or
challenge you.
Get some context
Understanding the context can change the course of the meaning of the book.
Following these isn’t necessary, but if you want to get a lot from the book then, this will benefit you.
If you are reading any older books, try to understand the historical context. Asking such questions can be helpful:
Why did the author write this?
What is their background?
What else have they written?
Did any important events—a war, an economic depression, a change of leadership, the emergence of new technology—happen during the writing of the book? etc.
Know your why
Before picking, ask yourself a question why you’re reading this book?
Intelligently skim
We’ve been taught that skimming is bad for understanding, but that is not necessarily the case, using the tools effectively can increase understanding. One such method is Inspectional Reading.
Skim through the index, contents page, preface, and inside the jacket to get an idea of the subject matter, using this information find if this book situates your expectations and refine what you were looking for as you read.
Match the book to your environment
When choosing books, take a look at your situations and decide on genres or others that may help you to overcome your current challenges or it may give you a fresh perspective.
2). Remembering what you read
Take Notes
The best note-taking technique is whichever one works for you.
Stay Focused
Set a fixed time in the day when you will be reading, you will only focus on the book nothing else.
If you’re struggling to construct an environment, you can always join Bookmarked!, we have daily accountability reading sessions:) DM me if you need it. ps: it's free :)
Mark up the book
Stop treating your book as something sacred, go crazy with it, make notes while you read, fold the page, do whatever helps you.
Make Mental Links
As David says: “You read to collect the dots, and you write to connect them.”
So while reading, when you come across an important passage or concept, pause and visualize to connect the dots.
Stop When Bored
When it comes to reading, you don’t need to finish what you start. As a
3). Now what
Now comes the part, where you ask yourself the question, Now what? how can you apply what you learned?
Try these:
Applying what you’ve learned: using Feynman Technique
Make your notes searchable: There are endless ways to organize your notes, it doesn’t matter which system you use as long as you’ll be able to find the notes in the future.
Re-read
No book is worth reading that isn’t worth re-reading.
You can refer to the original article by Shane Parrish by visiting: fs.blog
🤩Surprice 🤩
Would love to meet a few of you in the upcoming weeks:) Let’s discuss books, projects, and whatnot. Book here
I’ve curated all the mini-essays written by David Perell and tried to understand and break down how does he write long essays from his mini-essays. Reply to this mail and I’ll share the file with you:))
I'm sorry, but I won't be able to share the surprise that I had hoped to create, with you; however, I will try to do so next time.
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